Twenty nine years ago today my lovely wife and I exchanged vows of marriage. I won’t go into al the sappy details, but I will say that it was a perfect day. Everyone I wanted to attend was there, the weather was perfect, and we all had a great time. Over the years we have had many adventures and lots of luck. Both of which could be good or bad, and many were. It’s been a roller-coaster ride that I hope never ends.
Most of my friends have been through a divorce and some are on their second marriage. It seems rare for a couple to stay together more than about ten years. We seem to be the anomaly. The odd couple. Today we are surpassing twenty-nine years with no end in sight. So what is our secret? How did we manage not to toss in the towel during the tough times?
Patty and I discussed this last night on our way out to dinner at the Bent Fork. We could not find any secret to our success. We love each other and try our best to make each other happy. Sometimes we are successful and other times not so much. But we don’t have any formula for success.
Maybe the question is phrased wrong.
Sometimes I like to flip things around to help make sense of things.
The question shouldn’t be, what is the secret to our successful marriage, but why would it fail?
I can’t answer that one either.
Which is probably why we are going just fine after 29 years.